Sexual Journey

I was sheltered, and I didn’t want to experience or explore further then missionary. Sadly this is true, why sadly? Well for me it’s sad because the world of sex is so diverse and interesting and something I wish I embraced earlier. I am grateful for finding my feet and exploring my sexuality beyond what I had done up to the age of 31. I was thankful I was able to do this with a man that didn’t push me beyond my comfort level, he was always respectful, and he helped create my now open mind toward sex. Things don’t shock me anymore, and I am very open-minded when it comes to the world of sex.

My sexual desire was not high, and it sure wasn’t interesting I became single and found myself opening up more to the people that were around me. My best friend has always been so open to sex, and I found her knowledge to be extremely helpful, she helped me become more comfortable talking about it and not only that but to seek more information about it. With this new confidence, I also hit the dating sites/apps that are so vastly available these days with access to the internet and with our smartphones it’s amazing. I found myself getting more self-esteem and stepping more outside of my shy self which was so revitalizing and refreshing.

I am so glad I stepped out of this shell of mine, and the comfort of just being at home because I tell you this world sure is just amazing. After a few encounters I found my confidence rise, I couldn’t believe the new person that I was developing into, yes most of the old me was still there that soft, sweet, kind, loyal and caring woman. This other side of sexual desire and need to explore beyond the bounds of the missionary has grown and blossomed creating a confident, strong and more independent women than I was before.

Over the years, I have done and experienced many things, things I hold no shame over. Why, you ask? Well, it’s all part of my journey. I want my kids to know about these experiences. No, not yet but as they age I will talk to them openly and honestly about sex and the things they need to know, if they ask me for mine, I will tell them that was my journey, and you will have your own, but I'm happy to give you my opinions. For now they are kids, and they don’t need to know the full truth about their mums opinions. All of this has sure made me realise if my parents were more open about it and talked to me about sex, my journey would have been different, and I wouldn’t have had the “guilty sex disorder” for so long. I am proud to say I have stepped away from this, and I am me, I am a sexual soul that enjoys what the world of sex has to offer. I have my boundaries and levels of what things I am comfortable with. I have no judgment on others own personal levels, and I refrain from using the slut ‘s’ word because truly if I cast that stone on another then someone who isn’t like me someone who has less of a desire to explore the world of sex could cast that stone on me.

It is amazing how we all take different paths in our lives including our sex journey and that some become quite out there, and others are reserved. Be proud of who you are and always be true to who you are when it comes to your sexual path. I am not an expert on sex, but I am an expert on myself. I am proud to say I have embraced my sexuality and my sexual desires I do choose who I share them with, and I chose how much I chose to share with my friends and family. I hold my head high and I am proud to say I LOVE sex, and my sexual journey has been a wonderful ride of learning and exploring.

Amsterdam Affair Part 1

Part 1 of the Amsterdam affair.

Well, the first story was full of hot steamy passion and thanks to our beautiful traveling girls for our first story.

We think that they not only had a happy ending to their holiday, but they also had a holiday they are not likely to forget.

That story gave us the travel bug for sure. 

Keep your eye open for part 2 of Fran and Stacy’s story where Stacy tells us her version of the night's events.

If you missed the first story, why not catch up follow the link to get your copy and read Fran’s 

sexscapade

http://www.theswordstories.com/#!Amsterdam/gpjbn/562f14360cf2d5c7c8f50191

Secrets exposed

 Ohhh what you want to talk about sex, no that’s not something a good girl does. We sit in the corner drinking tea folding washing, and we only do it to procreate. Come on girls and boys grab your wine kick your feet up and share your stories. Feel liberated feel free, Feel good. and don’t be afraid to say I think sex is bloody awesome.

This blog is for every woman and every man who has ever thought I wonder if these things only ever happen to me. Is this feeling normal? Do I desire too much or too little? These are conversations that we have had many times.

We are two thirty-something-year-old Newcastle women who were separated and thrust into the single market.  We are girls who had limited sexual experience as we had been with our partners from 16 years of age and were committed and faithful. We were missionaries, if you know what we mean and if you’re a bit slow I mean the sex we had been a little unadventurous and was not always good. Although this had not been the fault of our partners more to do with the fact that we were young and still unsure of the morality of sex what was right wrong or appropriate. We felt uncomfortable talking about it and with most of the people around us sex was a taboo subject, even if they would have been fine talking about it, we probably would not have known how to broach the subject.

Our thirty’s have been liberating we are now open with our friends and wonder why we have not always been that way. Our relationships still would have still broken down, but sex with our exes might have been more fulfilling if only we had not been so sexually unaware.
We encourage you not to damage the sex lives of the future generation by putting so much stigmatism on sex. Our children when they come of age, need to be informed, careful but also aware. Sex is a beautiful natural thing that should not be entered into lightly but is a vital part of our human nature, having this knowledge will ensure a healthy sexual attitude and a happy and well-adjusted life.

In saying all of this mum and dad, please read no further as throughout this blog we will be sharing some of our experiences among those of others who have wished to share some of their intimate stories of the "S" word, and yes we have noticed it does also spell sword and there will be stories of those as well.

To the people who have gotten this far and are already red and flustered its ok. Go and have a nice cup of tea we understand, we to would have done just that a few years ago. To everyone else buckle up cause were going for a ride of the sexual kind.

The "S" word,  there different needs for different people. Some need it often some never, and some are little deviates. We would say we have had it all, but then you would call us the other "S" word and to be completely honest it would also be a lie. Hell, we are writing this blog, so you are probably already are, but we know we are not and that we have healthy attitudes towards sex, yes we said. Sex sex sex sex sex. It’s not a bad word it’s a wonderful and exciting word, it’s in our music the books we pretend we don’t read and the movies that we watch. It’s our sexy little secret but let’s stop the hiding and start to be more honest with ourselves and embrace the beauty of this most personal of all the human interactions.

There is a place for all levels of intimacy from the one night stand to the full passion of the honeymoon night. No matter where you are at, in your sexual journey you are at the place that you currently meant to be. It seems that so many people are getting married or are in relationships for the wrong reason. Why are we expected to live in a life of bad sex or dysfunction? Life and sex should be joy and passion, not hurt and resentment.

Men and women have morphed in recent years with the introduction of the internet, in some ways we have become bolder, for example, the selfies and the sword shot, ohhh so many pictures of swords. It amazes us how many men these days have sword pride it’s like hi
Ohhh wow and there’s your sword I don’t even know your name but I know if you’re circumcised or not, and if it’s not sword pictures its bold sex requests. It’s like "hey how you going I only just want to!! I don’t need your name or number I just want to screw!" And were like "hey how you going sorry you can’t get through we also don’t need your name or your number and how about SCREW YOU!" Maybe now and then your answer might be "Hey, how you are going I want just the same as you, so let’s find a room and go at it for a few."
It’s a running joke with us now so how many jackasses tried it this week? We share and compare and go Ohh why did they have to be a jerk I liked that one, or well at least they were good for something.

People! Don't think that because you wait before going all the way people will stick around, they now have got us all figured out and will wait then still run. If someone is not at a stage in their life where they are ready for a committed relationship, they will not be having breakfast. No it's nothing you did it is just the way it is, and really who are you trying to kid you saw it coming, but at the end of the day passion and hormones won out, hey if it felt good don’t knock yourself just look at it as a beautiful human connection that was not meant to be anything more.

Most of the sexual experiences that we have had are often in vaults at the back of our mind and are never shared, but we are about to open the vault and expose all those little “S” word secrets from people's experiences all across the world.

The guilty sex disorder

Sex, it seems it that people should desire sex but not have it because it's somehow morally wrong.

As a child, I was brought up in a religious household and for many years held the belief that I would burn in hell for thinking about sex let alone having it.

It was not until I was older that I realised that sex is a natural part of life.

Unfortunately, I was carrying around an a fear and guilt towards it or as I like to call it a guilty sex disorder.

For manny years, it affected my relationships. Made me a stranger to my body and as my partners had put it had made me a prude.

I thought that it was normal. I thought that everyone felt that way, I thought that it was a shame that was just a part of how we were supposed to feel and act when it came to sex.

 The older I got, the more I felt something inside of me awaken and may things became a lot clearer.

I was supposed to enjoy sex; it was supposed to be beautiful. It was supposed to be fun; it was supposed to be everything, but what it was at the time and that was Rubbish!

How many people out there right now feel judged for their desires. Hated for their opinions or misguided in their attitudes. I would say many, but they are unaware or afraid to confront their issues.

Bad sex is not always the result of a person not being good in bed but can be the effect of a person being uncomfortable or feeling guilty about sex in general.

Deciphering the two can result in helping both parties to have a better sexual experiences and help a damaged party to overcome sexual anxiety.

Sex is supposed to be amazing and fun and not clouded by a guilty sex disorder.

If you feel that this is something you encounter your not alone but it does not have to be that way, seek out help from a sex counsellor or talk to a trusted friend or partner.

Have an awakening and enjoy sex.